Love to the Second Power


Love is an important ingredient in your business.

When you are passionate about what you do then it’s natural and easy to love your customers.

You start looking for ways you can listen to them and create solutions to help support them. We’ve been taught to be responsive to what your clients need next.

There’s also a second type of love that’s necessary in your business.

It’s loving yourself.

This is not about some fake affirmation… looking in the mirror and saying, “Who loves ya baby?”

It’s about having a deep appreciation, respect and allowing yourself to be in wonder and awe of who you are and how your presence.

I can tell when a new client loves what they do but they don’t quite love themselves. There’s an incongruency. It’s not in the words they use or the copy they write. It’s in the energetics of what is communicated along with those words.

It’s often a place where I will start with a new client. Uncovering that sense of unworthiness that holds them back from fully believing in their Beautiful Brilliance and gifts. That sense of deep shame that keeps them from ever actually getting out in front of people in a bigger and more visible way.

Sometimes it shows up by withholding your success by sabotaging it in all sorts of fascinating and creative ways. You’re too busy, have a constant a sense of overwhelm, taking on new projects before finishing another, or just an everlasting case of never getting to the important things that will really shift their business in a big way.

As a creative type I can be inspired by lots of new ideas. I love making connections and seeing new products and programs I can create. That works… right up until I get overwhelmed and lose my focus.

That’s why I love working with my own coach. For over 20 years I have had different coaches for different types of support: career, starting a new business, spiritual, finding my voice, money coaches, accessing my intuition, upleveling my marketing, leveraging my work and so on.

I like having someone come into my business and life environment and tell me what they see. Because you can’t see your own creative blocks and saboteurs!

And there usually is that way you are creatively dodging that sense of not fully loving a part of yourself.

If you keep circling around rejecting a part of yourself and not loving yourself then you’ll miss out on that feeling of being totally aligned with your magnificence and magnetic presence… and the impact of that. When you attract people and extraordinary opportunities to you without a ton of hustle.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s still work to be done, hard decisions, and focused effort… but instead of feeling insurmountable it feels like a healthy challenge!

Where in your business or life are you pushing away success? Pushing away loving yourself enough to show up fully and beautifully in who you came on this planet to be?

That’s who we want to see!

What’s one step you could take today to have that amazing person be seen and heard?

5 Signs You Need to Grow


This is a business truth: When YOU grow, your BUSINESS grows.

Sometimes you are clear you are ready for growth but quite often it sneaks up on you. Catching you unaware and wondering what the heck is going on with me?!

I had this happen recently where I was feeling really irritable with the weather, the flu going around, and generally anything that came in my direction for a couple of days. And I just wanted to nap! Finally I gave in and realized over the weekend that something was brewing underneath the surface and that I needed to stop forcing it and just let it come through. Let me say it involved a lot of binge watching “This is Us”, napping, journaling and getting coached!

There are very distinct signs that it’s time for focusing on what is going on under the surface that wants to be seen and heard that needs your attention, your reflection, your time and your energy so that you get out of the low level energy of stagnation or frustration and make room for what wants to emerge.

Here are the five signs that something needs to shift:

1. You are CRAZY BUSY – This one is the most obvious. If you are crazy hair-on-fire busy then it’s time to grow so your business can continue to grow. What are the systems you need to put in place to get more done in less time? Where can you delegate? What team or support do you need? Is it time for a coach to help you leverage your work so you can make more money, reach more people without the craziness?

2. You are feeling IRRATIONALLY IRRITABLE – You don’t understand why you are so dag-gone irritable but it’s there. In all its itchy, venom-filled glory. You may find yourself irritable with others for no real reason but what’s happening is that you are pissed at yourself! You might feel pissed at your business. This is actually a good sign (good coaches get excited at this kind of energy!) It’s a sign that you need to express. You have something pent up inside and it’s time to let it out. It may be in writing or speaking a new message, it might be time to stand in your leadership or it might be that you finally need to focus on that new body of work that is desperate to get created and is trying to get your attention.

3. You are SO BORED – When you have to drag yourself to the office or the thought of writing another email feels like the keyboard has leprosy, then you are bored. You might even want – to – take – a – nap. Again. Let yourself nap. It’s good to nap! Research shows that the shifting work gets done in our brains during nap time. Then you need some time to reflect, write, and talk it out so it makes it’s way to your heart. That’s when the real action will finally happen.